Everyone knows the phrase, “You realize you truly love someone the moment that you lose them” well, I believe that the moment we are truly alone, we realize how much we desire and need great people by our side. When I say alone, I do not mean being physically by ourselves, but those moments in which you feel immensely lost and lonely even in a crowded room of people talking and laughing. In those moments, which sometimes, unfortunately, might not be so instant but might last days, weeks, months, or even years, you feel how much you crave healthy people and feel it in your soul. But what do I mean by this word, healthy? Is it somebody who has good values? Someone who does not drink, smoke, or abuse substances? Somebody who eats healthy? I’m referring to spiritually healthy people who profoundly connect to you, and their internal wellbeing is reflected in their choices. Because yes, there are individuals who are temporarily spiritually sick, there are no bad people, especially at this marvelous young age, where we learn, make mistakes, and discover. However, there are people who are bad for you, and the moment we realize this, we grow.
In most cases, how we discover this is often extremely painful–sometimes we realize that it can be a best friend, a person we care about or have known for a long time, who is actually bad for us. You recognize that these “friends” are spiritually sick and probably in great pain. Perhaps they are insecure, angry, afraid, or anxious, and those traits are reflected in their behaviors which hurt others; that hurt you. They, of course, deserve the opportunity to heal, or sometimes, just to grow. But the time required for each of us to mature is not a straight line. Some people develop earlier than others. That does not make them better; they are merely at different stages of their lives. They also have the right to be who they are in that moment; they have the right to take the time they need to improve and become a better version of themselves, but without damaging you or bringing you down with them, because you, instead, have the right to feel like you are ready to be you.